This article was originally posted on the Healing Wisdom Holistics Blog at http://www.healingwisdomholistics.com, February 11, 2021
What if I told you that a year from today, you could be living the life of your dreams? You might be thinking that would be a miracle. And you’d be right, but miracles aren’t uncommon; they happen to people just like you every day. Creating miracles in your life is simple. The problem is we want life to be easy – not simple.
We want to keep the old habits, outdated lifestyles, and relationships that no longer serve us. We hold on to all these things while praying for a miracle to fix us. The true miracle, however, is that it’s within your power to fix yourself. When we take ownership of our lives we can do, have, and be damn near anything our hearts desire.
We construct our lives exactly the way we commit to having them. The life you’re living today is the result of all you’ve committed yourself to until now. The first step to making lasting changes in our lives is becoming aware of our thoughts. Our thoughts indicate our commitments. We’re either committed to a life of purpose or a life of pain. When we choose to master our thinking, what we’ve committed to becomes clear. Life is a divine experiment, as such it’s an opportunity to create anything you want if you are willing to be conscious in every moment to the truth that YOU ARE THE CREATOR!
I wish someone had told me this many years ago, it would’ve saved me tons of heartache and struggle. I wish I’d known from the beginning of my life, that I was born a strong woman. It would’ve made a huge difference. I wish I’d been aware of my courage; I wouldn’t have spent so many years cowering. If I’d known how powerful I am, I would’ve embraced my life with open arms, instead of running from it for so long. If I’d know I was born to take on the world and win, I wouldn’t have wasted so much time in the shadow of doubt, denial, and discouragement.
I’ve spent much of my life committed to starting over, surviving, settling, stumbling, and searching for something. Unconsciously creating mental dramas, expecting the worse, struggling from one crisis to the next, battered by self-made circumstances, without realizing that I had a choice. I could stop being the author of my own misfortune, by simply choosing to write a new story.
Writing a new story, for me, has been more about perspective than fact. It’s not an exercise in denial, but reexamination of the moments that have made a difference in the trajectory of my life. To move forward, I’ve had to go back to the moments I lost myself and find the places where I veered off the path to purpose. I’ve dug deep into the assumptions, expectations, failures, and successes that have shaped me, exhumed the loves, hates, promises, and pains that have bound me, and dusted off the choices that derailed my dreams to uncover the risks, ruins, tumults, and triumphs that set me free.
Reclaiming myself has not been easy. It’s a conscious, daily commitment to shed the old; old issues, guilts, fears, patterns, responses, resentments, relationships, attitudes, or whatever no longer serves me. Long gone are the days of carrying around emotional baggage and giving power to what’s held me back. It’s a new day, a time for new people, places, pleasures, passions, and yes even new predicaments.
This blog is about sharing my journey back to self with you and showing you that you can live a life you love, a life of your own. I believe every one of us was born for a divine purpose, and to live that purpose is our birthright. In fact, until we can get clear on why we are here, there’s not much use in pursuing anything else. The noted chess grandmaster, Robert Byrne once observed, “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”
In the 1940s, while a prisoner in Nazi concentration camps, Viktor Frankl began to question what made some push through the unimaginable pain of the camps while others died. He concluded that the difference was that those who survived found meaning in the struggle. In his book, Man’s Search for Meaning he writes, “Those who have a ‘why’ to live can bear almost any ‘how’.”
Napoleon Hill, author of the classic Think and Grow Rich said, “There’s a quality that one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants and a burning desire to possess it.”
The importance of purpose in our lives has been well documented. However, the return to self and reclaiming our purpose is not for the faint of heart. It’s a journey that requires a profound shift in your inner reality. Often a difficult journey is made easier when you have a traveling companion to support you along the way. It’s even better if that companion knows the territory and can also act as a guide during the trip.
I’d like to be a companion and guide to you if you will allow me. I believe there is a mystical bond between a reader and writer that draws the two together. If it’s meant for you, you’ll be called to it. If not, you’ll move on to something else. In the words of the poet, W.B. Yeats, “If what I write resonates with you, it’s merely because we are both branches on the same tree.”
There’s something magical about being allowed into someone’s life. In reading, I’ve learned not only to sympathize with others but truths about myself that I hadn’t been able to see before. Writing this blog is my way of stepping into the power of my calling to help others heal with words. More importantly, it’s my gift to you. As you read my words, may you discover magnificent truths about yourself you’ve never realized before?
Choosing to create the blog has been both excruciating and exhilarating. It’s required that I push past my fears around putting myself out there in an honest and intimate way. I’ve laughed and cried as I reexamined the dreams, loves, pleasures, and pains of my own past.
It’s my hope that you will be inspired to give yourself permission to embark on your own deeply personal journey to self. I should warn you that this is not one of those “how to change your life” blogs that tell you what you need to change and gives you step-by-step instructions for how to make the changes.
The stories and insights I share are meant to provoke your own unique insights and interpretations that will lead you to discover your own divine spark, experience your own magnificence, and step into your own power. Think of it as a soul-to-soul conversation on the path through one of life’s sacred journeys. Engage your heart, mind, and spirit. And allow your authentic self to guide you to a more beautiful, more abundant, more miraculous life.